Beware: It's Be My Boo Season - Part 2

While going over some of the statuses in my Facebook news feed, I came across one that went well with my Be My Boo series.  This lady stated, "Not interested in men who aren't business minded.  Why would a man think that if he has no goal he's aiming for, he will get a woman who is about having a vision?"

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My response to her status was:
Exactly....some come to perform the will of the enemy: to kill the desire God placed within you; to steal any progression (tools given by God) moving you in the direction God is guiding you in; and to destroy the work of God using you to bless those around you by trying to bless themselves with the fruit of your labor.

Of course, this status and response applies to both male and female.  I have seen countless men dealing with the women in their lives with the same mentality.

So how do I deal with them Granny?  So glad you asked.

1) Keep the vision in plain site - create vision boards, get out materials that will assist you in aiming for the goals related to the vision.
2)  Affirm who you are to yourself - the more you remind yourself of how valuable you are, the less you are reminded how valuable you are not by this person.  I learned one one from an event I attended last weekend:
     "I am the most important person I will ever meet"  - Marcia A. Paige
3)  Remember, the desire that was put inside you for greatness was place there by God.  If He didn't think you were the one for the job, He would have never placed that desire in you.
4)  Don't tell them anything - sometimes you have to do as Mary did in the Bible and just ponder on what you are going to do and how you're going to do it.  This person wants you to make it, but only on the terms of how they can benefit from it.

There are other things I'm sure you could do to prevent the negatives of this person to deter you from your goals.  This post would be too long and boring if I put them all in one post.  Feel free to leave a comment if you know of any other suggestions that would help.

Much love,
Granny

For part 1 of this series, click the link below
http://www.1elegantgranny.com/2012/09/beware-its-be-my-boo-season.html

BEWARE: It's Be My Boo Season

Growing up in the church, my mind use to wonder a lot while listening to the speaker.  One of his many quotes after reading the scripture was, "First natural, then spiritual".  He would proceed to explain the scripture to us using everyday situations, so we would understand the scripture better on a spiritual level.  During devotions this week, I read Matthew 7.  This post will be mostly from verses 15-21. And it is also mostly talking about false prophets.  I'm going to venture out and use this scripture giving one of Granny's excerpts on false relationships.

Comparing with verses 15-21, it is important for us to be alert of different people we welcome into our lives.  There are those with a "Charming Spirit" that approach you this time of the year more than any other time of the year.  I choose to call it the "Be My Boo Season".  During this time of the year, someone approaches you attempting to get into some form of relationship with you. Be it potential mate; ace; best friend;  etc..... 
You can tell they mean you no good by their fruit.  The relationship is more you give 99%, they receive 99%.  The 1% they choose to "freely give" comes with a price.  It is mainly for the 99% they are seeking to receive from you.  In any relationship, it should not be 99/1.  It shouldn't even be 50/50, but rather 100% both ways.  This particular type of person usually hangs around until the spring of the year when it's "open game season" for them to comfortably discard you, without warning, then off to find a new prey.  Some even have the gall to find someone else and try to hang onto to you in case it doesn't work out with the next victim.
Once this person is in your life for a portion of the season, you become attached to this person and do your best to keep them satisfied.  Before you know it, you're jumping through hoops doing for them and not reaping any of the benefits yourself.  This is harmful to your spirit and relationship with others.  You will tend to either lash out at those trying to help you out of the situation, or you wilt like a dying flower just accepting the relationship like it is causing more damage to your spirit.  You are much too precious to the rest of us to allow this to happen.  Someone on the outside may see what's going on inside but you choose not to listen.  If the person warning you is still continuing to be a friend no matter what the situation is with this other person, listen carefully.  It will save you a lot of heartache.  Better to face the fact that you were fooled into something you didn't intend to be in, than to try and save face trying to cover up and fix things yourself.

Please everyone be safe!!!  It is Granny's will and pleasure that you have a good life and enjoy it to the fullest.

Much love,
Granny   

For part 2, click the following link
http://www.1elegantgranny.com/2012/11/beware-its-be-my-boo-season-part-2.html